What’s normal is Melanin. It’s society that’s weird.
“She’s a little dark, no?”
“Yeah, I was also going to tell you. Very dark.”
“Here, you heard about that new Fair And Lovely?”
“Yes, I heard it makes you white in two days.”
“I should have brought it today. Then could have lent it to her.”
This was an actual dialogue I heard happening right behind me when I was ten.
Now, you might think I would have stood up for myself and been the heroine you expected to see. But no, I too am human. Of course that’s not what I did. Instead, I went home and wept for hours on end.
I started avoiding going out in the sun as much as possible, because every time I met someone, the first thing they’d do was look me up and down and then say, “How often do you go swimming, darling?”
I’d then shift awkwardly, not having an answer, because I’d stopped swimming around four years ago. It’s just something called called Melanin, you know? Other than crying, I spent the next few days downloading sketchy home-remedies from the internet, with unrealistic headers like ‘How To Get Fairer In Just 3 Days!’ or ‘Do you feel uncomfortable being dark? Read this to find out how to get fairer in just three days!’
Little did I know that living in a tropical country in south Asia, having a darker skin color was nothing but normal. But how could I be blamed? Everyone around me cracked colorist jokes every time I was around them. As uncomfortable as I was, I laughed along with them, because defending myself was a joke in itself. No one told me my skin color was what I was born with. Instead, everyone made me think it was my fault.
I remember standing in front of my mirror every day, asking God to fix my face, and my ugly complexion.
And then one day, just as suddenly as I’d started hating my face, I stopped. I realized that because it’s only my opinion that I value, I could just as easily ignore the hate and pressure I was burdening myself with, just to be someone I’m not.
Colorism exists, whether you like it or not. But what’s in your hands is telling yourself that you don’t care what they tell you. Their opinions are as valuable as labels on clothing. Melanin is normal. It’s society that’s weird.
this is incredible ! gives us a true insight about the reality of this world
Well written!
Love this!!!!
Amazing!!!
Well done
Excellent! Very interesting.... Well written.
An awesome piece of writing with an amazingly strong message in it.
Well written ... All the best
An enjoyable read, a well thought out piece of writing.
Very well written! ❤️
Beautifully written
Beautifully written
Well done Manaal .Keep blogging..
Incredible piece. I might have to send it to a lot of aunties I know.
A well written and relevant piece. It’s important that these topics are broached by the youth as they are the change makers in society! So happy that the author up this topic.
Very happy to have been a part of this initiative. Thank you to ICBS for featuring my article :))
Well Done!!! Excellent Job!!!
Good article which focus on a burning concern in Asian Countries.
Well done, keep up the good work
This was an interesting well written piece.. Congratulations to the author for bringing out such a strong message.
Very well written!
Well written and explained
Well written, All the Best Manal
well done Manaal
A timely message brought up through this article,specially to the young community .Well done Manal ,Keep going on.....
Nice work! Good luck!!!
Very well written!! All the best :*
Very well written. Good luck!
Well written and interesting!
Nicely written.
Excellent writing on an important topic Manal
Of course society is weird indeed
Excellent work Mannal
Well done Manaal!
Well done Manaal!
Well written and interesting.
Amazing!! Nicely written... Well done Manaal
Its kind if discrimination that you pointed out. Awareness is important and this is well written
Being who you are is accepting gods gift!!!
Well done
Wow ! Excellent Manaal
This kind of content is very much needed to make positive change in society so great job in helping us move in the right direction! Hopefully we can all do our bit as well.
Well written Manaal! Something that needs to be talked about!
Great
lovely article
Great message in it,Well done and All the best!
Lovely read, dear!
Well done Manal. Good luck
Well done Manal. Good luck
So very true. Society certainly is weird. "Fair and Lovely" is now "Glow and Lovely".
Good job!!!
A lovely article. The message is very relevant and your prose is beautiful!
Good job!!!
Good job!!!
Excellent write up It shows her potential for a great future
Right message is given.
Great Article
Good article...
Excellent piece on an age old issue that unfortunately is still pertinent. Well done.
Wow! This is great work.
Well written….
Excellent ! Keep it up.
Wow
Excellent ! Keep it up.
loved it Manaal! it was wonderful!:)
Wow
an insightful and well written article!! well done !!
Amazing
Nicely written
Yes, you are right, Manaal !!!!! "It’s society that’s weird." Excellent writing !!! I hope your message will be carried across entire society.
Just Amazing! Loved it
Well written!
Very well articulated, from a young teenager! Keep up the good work.
Love this well written
A great approach Well done
well done,all the best
Excellent!! The reality has been brought in to light ! Good job.
Superb Well written. clear picture of reality..
Wonderful... Kerp it up!!!
Wonderful... Kerp it up!!!
Nice
nice
Well written with an excellent message in it.
Very well written. Good job.
Well done for bringing this hateful attitude to attention. Let’s hope a discussion on the topic will bring people to their senses.
Good job
Amazing!!!
Truly great
정말 놀랍습니다! 나는 그것을 좋아한다.
I really appreciate you for the article. It should reach younger generation specially the girls of today.
Well Done!
Really insightful piece on such a problematic issue. Thanks for sharing your experiences, great job Manaal!
I really appreciate you for the article. It should reach younger generation specially the girls of today.
Bravo!!
nice
Wel done, your words represents many in this society.
A sensible and timely topic..... good luck!!!
Veryyyyy interesting! thanks manaal for this blog :)
Nicely done! Keep writing, Manaal.
I am deeply touched by your writing, by your honesty, and by how you have sought to build your own sense of confidence. Stay beautiful, just as you are.
I am deeply touched by your writing, by your honesty, and by how you have sought to build your own sense of confidence. Stay beautiful, just as you are.
I have enjoyed reading your piece of writing. You have expressed your thoughts well, and provoked others to think also.
Amazing piece of work!!
Good Job
Nicely written...well done.
Nice work
nice
well done
Well done
Exceptional! Super crafting with an attention grabbing opening memorable close sandwiched with key take home message. This should open the minds of many who are built on man made divisions.
Excellent, keep going
Great work, all the very best
Well written!! Well done:)
Excellent writing with an overwhelming message. Enjoyed reading. All the best!
Well Done!!! Excellent Job!!!
Superb.. All the best
Well done
Well Done!!! Excellent Job!!!
Great work, all the very best
Well done Manaal. A beautiful piece of writing.
Well done
Go girl. Glad you grew out of that phase. Its the society thats weird and dont let any one come in your way. This world is all yours too. ❤️❤️
Beautifully written
Well done Manaal!
Excellent! Well written
Excellent.. well written. Keep up the good work.. :)
It’s the reality, thank you for bringing this up. Even my daughters stopped swimming lessons after receiving the comments from relations about skin darkening. Very few are appreciating the skin colour as it is. Majority prefers fairer skins. People from west are dreaming to have darker skins.
Beautiful one
Very well written, a fantastic article which expresses the real situation
Very well written.
Well written message. Often people ignore. Well done
An encouraging piece of writing that will be enjoyed by many people who may feel a bit insecure at times. The writer hits the important notes at the important places in this beautifully thought out piece of writing. Congratulations and well done. Keep up the good work and you have the potential to go a long way forward.
Excellent, eloquent expression of what children go through as they grow up. Melanin is normal, it is the society that is not. Disability is normal, it is the society that is unable to understand that. A stark reminder of the long journey ahead of us to remind society that every individual is different, and it is normal to be different.
Welldone! Manaal
Welldone! Manaal
An encouraging piece of writing that will be enjoyed by many people who may feel a bit insecure at times. The writer hits the important notes at the important places in this beautifully thought out piece of writing. Congratulations and well done. Keep up the good work and you have the potential to go a long way forward.
Well written, the reality of the world we are in.
Welldone! Manaal
Beautifully written. Well done!!
very well written...
I hope that it will urge many people with the same thoughts to change. Well done.
Excellent! Very nicely written!
Well written.
Excellent
Wow good job!
Excellent. Well explained the truth
Best of luck
What a great writeup....
Compregensive compilation
Powerful message!
great
Excellent write up
Excellent write up,, very interesting. Keep up the good work.
Congratulations Manila, You have written about a topic, even grown up hesitate to touch most of the time. You have written about social reality where each person is under pressure to comply with the existing social norms, established and consolidated by some groups with their own interests to safeguard. Everybody needs to examine issues critically, combining analytical and creative thinking. If this happens, the world will be a much better place. Good luck and all the best in your future endeavours!
An eloquent and important message. Good job!
Woow..its amazing
Well written. All the best
Well written and to the point.
Great work. God Bless You.
Well laid out facts
Good job for bringing this up. Hope it will help some people to see things in a different light..... there is beauty in all of creation and colour is a part of that wondrous beauty. Imagine a world of all people with only one colour......would you like that!
All the best manaal
Lovely piece
Diversity is nature and no one can change it, however, can change the perception. Manal mubarak has taught me the lesson that the Problem is perception not the creation
Yes indeed..Skin tone may change based on the level of melanin. Keep it up
Colorism is an ugly facet among many other things in the society. Words like you are dark but beautiful will not help you or any other girl with dark skin, since that makes you feel like there is a bridge between being dark and being beautiful. There really is not. You are beautiful. Dark, fair, tall, short these are few of many adjectives used to describe appearances, it has nothing to do with beauty in itself. After all beauty is more than skin deep. I hope your words has helped you more than it could help many of us. This is a never ending battle you have to fight with the society and yourself, and I wish you win both. You are beautiful that is it. NO dark and beautiful, NO chubby and pretty simply beautiful. From one girl with Melanin to another.
It`s a real life anecdote, most of us doesn`t realize. And beautifully written.
Melanin is a pigment and is unique to each of us and should not be changed cosmetically, Well written,
Beautiful
Realistic and factful article. All the best.
This is an excellent piece of writing. I enjoyed your creativity and style. Much effort has been put into this work of art.
Something that most shy away from and suffer in silence, expressed elequently. Others should take comfort and realize that a colour or any other personal trait should have no bearing as to who that person really is. What matters will be the values within. Well done Manaal.
Well done. Beautifully written.. keep it up.
Well done. Beautifully written.. keep it up.
Well done Manaal. Good luck!!!
Love it! Extremely relatable, unfortunately. Why are lighter-skinned people supposed to be better again? When you realise that only your opinion that matters, it becomes easier to love yourself.
Where your melanin with pride. It protects you from Malignant Melanomas.
Great
Great
Very true, totally agree, the colorism is a common topic in most households
Very well written article. An interesting topic that is not talked about enough.
Nice, good work, keep it up
This is well written and appeals to a wider audience. Keep writing Manaal.
Well written
Varying colours are beautiful. Imagine if we were all the same colour? Same coloured clothing, same coloured cars etcetc? Packaging can be anything but one buys the product inside. Go strong Manaal
Congratulations Manaal! Way to go! A wisely chosen topic presented in an appealing way and with a mature outlook ... You have crowned it with a simple but empowering solution. Great!
Great story about the absurd culture around skin color. Loved it
Perfectly described the reflection of the society by warding off negativity and cultivating positive attitude. Well done!
An excellent write up and deeply insightful. So glad that this is being spoken about. We are all born with the color that God Almighty gave us. "Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder" so the saying goes... I hope we are all more accepting of all skin colors, no matter how dark or light one may be & look at the person, rather than the color of skin!
A wonderful piece of writing. Well done.
Beautifully written of a typical mindset of the Asian society
Beautifully written of a typical mindset of the Asian society
Well said !!
Brilliant !
Interesting
Well said,Good luck!!!
Well written. All the best!!!
Well written Manal. Wish our society will realise how hurtful their words can be.
Well written! Just be yourself and disregard the opinions of others!
Sincere congratulations on your hard-earned success.You are proof that good things come to those who are willing to sacrifice to reach a worthwhile goal. Words can’t express how proud I am! Good topic combine the skills of critical thinking and critical writing,I love it.
A current and valuable article
Very good
Manaal your article is spot on with the perfect ending! Keep up the good work.
Manaal, This is a great message to the younger people of Sri Lanka ! Hope it will change attitudes ! Best Wishes !
Good piece of writing about skin colour issues. Well done.
Well written, thank you. Growing up I’ve heard these conversations, worse yet they were prevalent among the elders in the community. The obsession of being “fair” (or better yet white) in the east is a disease and can only be eradicated with open honest discussion, especially among the youth.
Awesome piece of writing, well articulated!
Well written and express a strong message
Superbly written. Nice work. Bets if luck! Ranil
Well written and express a strong message
A thought-provoking article! Well done Manaal! You are wise beyond your years.
Very well written, well done.
Well Said
Very interesting
Very impressive message to the society. Good flow of points, unique thought process
Nice...
Very thoughtful and excellent writing. Well done.
Excellent.
Nicely written.
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This is a common issue that especially, girls are worrying about. This writing is an eye opener for those who like to accept nature’s beauty.
Nice thought. Well done.!
Excellent write up and a much needed topic to be brought up and discussed.
Good way to send the message acctosd
Excellent!!
Excellent!!
Excellent..well done
Excellent idea. Keep writing.
An year ago Miss World was a blck. Appreciated very much Well done
An year ago Miss World was a blck. Appreciated very much Well done
An year ago Miss World was a blck. Appreciated very much Well done
Well-written
Perfectly put
Wooow excellent
Very well expressed. A stigma which should be defeated at all times. If black is the colour statement for formal suits and cocktail dresses why should one born with a shade unique be any different but celebrated. You got it right my dear. Stand up tall in your own skin no matter what colour. Good luck to you.
Appreciate your work. Well done.
Amazing.!
Excellent ..!
Very thought provoking!
Amazing!! Well written.
Society is very weird Manaal. Whether you say ‘darling’ or ‘sweetheart’ …. What you are asking is a judgemental question Weird society. Nicely written
Timely topic that should be read by all young girls and boys who are worried about their skin colour. Well done!
Very Well Done !
Very nice message. Well articulated. Good luck daughter!
Very well written ❤️
Very well written All the best
Nice One :)
Nicely written, keep writing more! All the best!
Good luck and best wishes.
Well written, excellent.
Well done
Excellent write-up
Excellent! Keep writing
A white has no superiority over black nor does a black have any superiority over a white except by piety and good action. (Prophet Muhammad (SAL)
Well written article
Insightful article with a message. Nicely written.
Very nice article.
beautifully written !
Excellent write up
Nicely written with a very good message.
Well written!!
A fascinating insight on the struggles of conforming to society; nice.
Very well written. Quite an insightful article.
Good write up
A timely topic that is in need to change the opinion of this society and a motivation for those who are affected. Nicely written
Love this!
Colorism is beautiful outwardly to project the diversity of our lives but one should look inwardly and understand that color does not make one better over the other! Well written piece for the younger generation to break the traditional stereotypical mindset!
Very well written. Gives a good message to the society.
Very well written. Gives a good message to the society.
Very well written. Gives a good message to the society.
Well written excellent piece.
All the best
Relevant topic
Great skill. Good job.
Awesome message.Very relevant to our society.
Well Said and Well written .. Keep going ❤️
Good one . Hope u instill more confidence.
Excellent Well Written
Excellent Well Written
Excellent well written
Beautifully written !!
Great work-congradfulations!
Welldone
Nice article and truth in the society
Excellent.
Well written the reality little girl! But things are changing now. Colour has become just a colour. The inner colour of us is the mostly valued.
An issue that has been in existence for decades.
Well written. It is a global issue written in a nutshell.
Excellent piece of writing!
Interesting..Well written article ✌️
What an amazing piece of writing. The story is framed extremely well. When you read, it truely brings the tropical island life and it’s ‘darker’ sides (no pun intended) to life.
Very well written. Wish you all the very best.
Black is indeed BEAUTIFUL! Well written!
Such an interesting and inspiring write up. Empowerment comes from within. Well written.
Beautiful writing
Amazingly written - a genuine write up that captures a topic that’s often swept under the carpet !! Especially when criticized ! ! Melanin is the cause of colour ! It’s not a fault to have more of it !
Excellent piece of writing
Well written
Excellent writing!Well done Manal
Wow.. love this.. Wish you all the very best Manaal...
Wow.. love this.. Wish you all the very best Manaal...
Very well written and speaks about the reality. Good piece of work. Congratulations and keep up the good work.
Well done Manaal! I feel so proud of you. The reality of the trauma experienced by darker shade persons has been brought out beautifully. The doors of confidence at the end is spot on!
Very informative and this knowledge should spread.
Brilliantly written & explained bringing about a much needed awareness!
Well written!
Well done and All the best ☺️
Loved reading this! Written so well.
Very well written article.
Well written darling. It took me back to my childhood. It’s a very common problem in society today feeling insecure with one’s complexion. All the best!
Very well written
Very true and accurate. I have 2 daughters. These girls are pretty! I inthum Heluveen. Allah Atteq il Afiya. Ameen!
Good message!!! Keep going!!!
It was well written about a very sensitive topic. It addresses a major problem we can see in the western world as well.
Well Done!!! Excellent Job!
Excellent write up on an age old issue that affects most girls.
Written well and clear !
Excellent Manal good luck
A very good story that we all must talk with our daughters and generations to come that nothing is wrong with our skin tone or any colour we may be. Hold you head high.
Well written. With a smart solution to an unnecessary yet common problem :)
Excellent work, well done.
Brilliant!!!
Beautifully written!
Beautifully written. Great work.
Excellent
So well written!! An interesting read with a strong message!
Amazing
It is an excellent piece of writing which conveys a very strong and convincing message to the teens, especially girls, all over South Asia. It begins with a dramatical tone and ends up with a powerful message to the society. Start to the end it was enjoyable reading. Well done, Manual. It begins with a
It is an excellent piece of writing which conveys a very strong and convincing message to the teens, especially girls, all over South Asia. It begins with a dramatical tone and ends up with a powerful message to the society. Start to the end it was enjoyable reading. Well done, Manual. It begins with a
A very powerful message to the readers
Well said. It is the deed what we do value us not the complexion.
Congratulations Manaal. Thank you all for the “Likes” and lovely comments. These will definitely motivate her to develop her writing skills. Best wishes Manaal.
Best Wishes Manaal. Would also like to thank for all the lovely comments and good wishes and likes posted on this blog. This will truly inspire her to do more articles of this nature.
It is true and well said.
Good Job manaal
Thoughtful work
Racism against Skin color should be Erased from this planet. Fantastic, you are doing a great Job.
Racism against Skin color should be Erased from this planet. Fantastic, you are doing a great Job.
This topic does not get enough attention. A great article that sends an important message for everyone. Being dark is not ugly, and being fair should not be a beauty standard.
Very Good
Super...!!
wow! great job
As I Know, she is very creative, informative and focused, I wishing her to win
As I Know, she is very creative, informative and focused, I wishing her to win
As I Know, she is very creative, informative and focused, I wishing her to win
Well said and written Manaal
Well written. All the best
Good article.. keep it up
Well done
Good job keep it up
Very well done., truly inspiring!!!
Well done !!
Couldn’t have said it better. All the best Manaal!
Well done. Good luck
Well written article! Looking forward to read more like this from the budding writer.
Well written article! Looking forward to read more like this from the budding writer.
Very interesting story :)
Fantastic Article. You maintained the readers interest not only from the begining to end, but beyond it too. Wish you the very best.
Well written !
A very timely topic. Beautifully written.
Nice content
Well written..
I simply love the last line. Well done Manaal!
Well done Manaal!
Well said ! You nailed it.
Wow Simple but strong message. Fantastic.
Nicely written and explained!
Excellent!! Good job.
Nicely done! The feeling and emotion was brought out perfectly by the author.
Well written Well done
Very interesting piece of writing. And a very meaningful message was brought up
Well written !
Well done... reality expressed... what matters not colours... accepting diversity will make everyone’s life so colourful and wonderful... well written ...!!! message conveyed...!!! All the best Manaal...
Amazing!
Its time we embrace ourselves for who we are. Well written. Keep it up
Well done. It is a excellent work.I am realy happy to see it
Well written !!!
Very well articulated piece of writing thoroughly enjoyed it.
Well Done
Very good message to the new generation .I really appreciate it.
A very good message to the new generation .I really like it.
A very good message to the new generation. I really appreciate it.
Well written....
Well done
Nice creative
This is so true, sadly dark complexion is considered unattractive by majority of people in today’s society but having said that I have seen many dark women standing out in a crowd !!!...
An incredible piece of writing. Well done Manaal.